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Caring for one's appearance and dedicating time to beauty rituals is often tied to body perception and self-esteem. Here are the key aspects that explain why it can be challenging for some women:
Identification with the body
As psychoanalyst Jean-David Nasio points out, when a person perceives their body as an inseparable part of themselves ("I am my body"), caring for it may feel foreign or even unnecessary. The body is expected to "function" without special attention.
Seeing the body as property
When a person views their body as a separate but valuable asset, it becomes easier to care for it. This perspective turns beauty rituals into a way of maintaining an important resource, similar to maintaining a home or car.
Psychological factors
Psychologist Robert Neuburger connects self-care with feelings of significance. If a woman feels unnecessary or uninteresting, her motivation for external care diminishes. However, social and family obligations, as in Marina's example, can prompt her to return to these rituals even during difficult periods.
Emotional state
Experiences such as divorce, loss of loved ones, or stress can temporarily suppress the desire to care for oneself. During such times, energy is spent on survival rather than maintaining appearance.
Influence of surroundings
Social beauty standards and expectations from acquaintances also play a role. Self-care may be a way to save face in society, but without internal motivation, this approach rarely brings satisfaction.
How to address this:
Change body perception. Try seeing your body not as "me" but as a friend that requires attention and care.
Find personal meaning. Self-care should bring joy to you, not conform to others' expectations.
Take small steps. Start simple: a face mask or a walk outdoors can be the first step toward deeper self-care.
Address emotions. Therapy can help work through internal barriers preventing self-care.
Caring for one's appearance is not just a reflection of style; it is a way of expressing self-love and acknowledging one's worth.
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Even if you feed a forest rooster from a golden dish, it will still fly back to the forest.
Social expectations and gender differences may lead your husband to constantly struggle with his emotions: there is what he feels and what he believes is "allowed" to express. He is used to avoiding vulnerability, dependence, and feelings of weakness. This creates challenges in connecting with you—a woman who wants to hear that she is important and appreciated. Often, men like your husband channel their emotions into activities such as work, sports, or hobbies.
For your partner to start opening up, he needs to feel comfortable and safe with you. This will happen when he sees that you yourself freely express your thoughts and emotions—that you are authentic and vulnerable.
Avoid asking him to share his feelings directly. Instead, talk about yourself—your emotions, experiences, and feelings toward him. Speak from your heart without overthinking, analyzing, or attempting to influence or control him. Once he sees you connecting with your emotions and expressing them clearly, simply, and without judgment or expectations, he may one day follow your example.
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The Eternal Life of Ramakrishna 🌼
As Ramakrishna neared the end of his earthly journey, he could neither eat nor drink, which caused great concern among his disciples. Swami Vivekananda, overcome with emotion, knelt at his master’s feet and pleaded:
"Why don’t you ask God to take away your illness? At least ask Him to let you eat and drink! God loves you, and if you ask, a miracle will surely happen! He will free you."
Other disciples joined in the plea.
Ramakrishna, moved by their devotion, replied, "Very well, I will try."
Closing his eyes, his face radiated an inner light, and tears streamed down his cheeks. In that moment, all pain seemed to dissolve. After a time, he opened his eyes, meeting the joyful gazes of his disciples, who were certain a miracle had occurred.
Ramakrishna spoke:
"Vivekananda, you fool! You asked me to do something foolish, and I, in my simplicity, obeyed. I asked God, 'Why can’t I eat or drink? At least let me do that much.' And God replied, 'Why do you cling to this body? You live on in your disciples. Through them, you eat and drink.' In that moment, I felt a profound freedom, and I wept."
Ramakrishna’s sense of unity with all life transcended his physical being. When his wife, Sarada Devi, asked if she should follow mourning customs after his death, he gently reassured her:
"I am not leaving. I will remain here in everything around you. You will see me in the eyes of those who love me, feel me in the wind and rain. When a bird takes flight, perhaps you will remember me. I will always be here."
Sarada Devi honored his wisdom. She wore no mourning attire and shed no tears, finding solace in the love of Ramakrishna’s disciples. To her, he was never gone, for his presence continued to illuminate her life.
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Crisis in Relationships: How to Keep the Inner Fire Alive After 45? 🔥
As women age, psychological strength and relationship stability often rely heavily on their emotional sensitivity, intuition, and ability to smooth over rough patches. It is their ability to maintain the freshness of relationships and detect early signs of distress that plays a crucial role in the longevity of the relationship.
However, as women reach a certain age, they naturally experience heightened anxiety, driven by fears of aging, concerns about their health, beauty, and attractiveness, and the fear that their partner might turn to younger women. These feelings can undermine a woman's self-confidence, and unfortunately, they are often very perceptible to men, causing instability in the relationship.
Moreover, intimacy often becomes a challenge in this period. Although, in theory, sexual experience should bring the most pleasure in later years, women often find themselves lacking desire or feeling disappointed with their intimate life. In some cases, discomfort and pain arise due to vaginal dryness. This can certainly affect the quality of intimacy and, as a result, both partners' satisfaction.
Navigating Relationship Crises After 45: Hormonal Changes and Solutions 💫
These feelings are often connected to inevitable hormonal changes known as menopause. Female sex hormones, particularly estrogen and progesterone, play a crucial role in the reproductive system, emotional well-being, youthful appearance, sexual desire, and satisfaction.
As the hormonal balance naturally shifts, it can affect a woman's appearance, mood, self-confidence, and, importantly, the relationship between partners. It’s crucial to talk openly with your partner about the changes you are experiencing, seek psychological support if adapting to these changes is difficult, and pay extra attention to your health and appearance. Regular exercise, a balanced diet, and self-care can help a woman maintain a positive attitude and confidence.
Natural Support During Menopause 🌿
During premenopause and menopause, it is essential to consider additional support for the body. There are special bio-complexes based on the power of medicinal plants designed to help women navigate this transitional period. These include phytoestrogens — natural compounds that closely resemble the structure of the body’s estrogen and help maintain hormonal balance, keeping youthfulness, sexual appeal, good health, and a positive outlook.
For example, Lady's Formula "Menopause. Enhanced Formula" contains phytoestrogens and additional plant components that promote lasting youthfulness and sexual vitality. One key ingredient is Maca root, a natural aphrodisiac that helps maintain skin freshness and elasticity, as well as natural lubrication in the intimate zone, boosting libido and enhancing sexual pleasure.
By supporting the body with these natural remedies, women can better manage the challenges of menopause while maintaining emotional and physical well-being, ensuring a fulfilling relationship even as they age.
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"What is necessary is always easy to obtain. It is only for excess that we must toil and sweat."
— Lucius Annaeus Seneca
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Humility and its Role in Resolving Conflicts
A recent study involving 284 couples from Detroit explored how humility impacts relationships, particularly the ability to forgive. Participants were asked questions like, "How humble are you?", "How humble is your partner?", and "Would you forgive your partner if they hurt or insulted you?". The results revealed that individuals who perceived their partners as humble were more likely to forgive them, whereas those with arrogant partners were much less inclined to offer forgiveness.
Unfortunately, humility is not highly valued in today's society. We often emphasize confidence and standing up for one's rights, rather than objective self-assessment and tolerance for others' opinions.
As a therapist, I often find that one of the biggest barriers to therapy is both partners’ reluctance to admit their wrongdoings. Arrogant individuals tend to believe they are always right, making it difficult for them to forgive, as they never acknowledge their own mistakes. This leads to intolerance toward others' faults.
Is Humility the Key to Well-being?
Arrogant and self-assured people often believe their religion, political party, or nation is superior to all others, leading to inevitable conflicts—both personal and cultural. Humility, on the other hand, prevents conflicts and encourages cooperation and mutual aid. Just as arrogance breeds more arrogance, humility typically fosters humility, promoting constructive dialogue, understanding, and peace.
In Conclusion: Healthy Humility is Key to a Healthy Self-Esteem
Healthy humility (not to be confused with neurotic self-deprecation) helps us see ourselves and others realistically. To assess the world accurately and understand our role in it, we must perceive reality as it is. Humility helps us find the compromises necessary to solve problems. Therefore, healthy humility is the foundation of healthy self-esteem.
History shows that arrogance and pride hindered the ability of many cultures and nations to adapt when change was crucial for survival. Ancient Greece and Rome declined as they became more arrogant and self-assured, forgetting the value of humility. "Pride goes before destruction," the Bible says. Can we, as individuals and as a society, once again recognize the importance of humility?
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"To please everyone is an art that no one can master" — Allen Leuten recht getan ist eine Kunst, die niemand kann.
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🦅 The Bird 🌳
A bird sitting on a tree never fears the branch breaking, because her trust is not in the branch but in her own wings. Always believe in yourself. 💪
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⏰ Habits of People Who Always Get Things Done 🚀
1️⃣ Waking Up Before the Alarm Rings
People who always stay on top of things have an “internal alarm clock.” Science explains it: the brain’s suprachiasmatic nucleus regulates our biological clock and can adjust to a daily routine. Punctual people usually follow a strict schedule, so their bodies adapt to their rhythm.
2️⃣ Planning Ahead
Punctual people pick out their clothes the night before so they don’t waste time in the morning. Instead of frantically rummaging through their wardrobe, they focus on more important things—like having a good breakfast. They also anticipate that things might go wrong in the morning and allocate extra time to handle any unexpected issues.
3️⃣ Building in Extra Time
Punctual individuals always arrive early or right on time because they’re used to planning ahead. If the journey takes 30 minutes, they leave 40-45 minutes in advance to be safe. 🛣️
4️⃣ Valuing Other People’s Time
You might secretly agree that “harmless” tardiness is actually rude. Punctual people strongly believe this. For them, being on time is crucial because they respect that everyone’s time is equally valuable. 🤝
5️⃣ Staying Organized
They never have an overly packed schedule. Their calendar is always up to date, and they know exactly how long it will take to reach their destination and never miss a meeting or event.
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😊 To Be Happy… 🌈
Fill your hands with work, your heart with love, your mind with purpose, your memory with useful knowledge, and your future with hope. ✨
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💡 How to Find Your Life’s Work 🌟
"Choose a job you love, and you will never have to work a day in your life." — Confucius’ famous quote has become a motto of our time. But what if you have no idea what could become your passion? 🤔
1️⃣ Ask Yourself Three Simple Questions
— What topic could I read 500 books about without getting bored? 📚
— What could I do for five years without getting paid? 💭
— What would I dedicate my life to if money weren’t an issue? 💸
Finding answers isn’t easy, but the insights could be life-changing. 🌱
2️⃣ Let Go of the Belief That Your Life’s Work Must Earn Money
"Anything that makes your heart beat faster is worth your effort." Are there things you would happily invest time and energy into, even if they don’t pay? It’s okay to earn money elsewhere for now, as long as you have time to make progress in what you love. ✨
3️⃣ Figure Out What You Don’t Want to Do
Make a list of jobs or activities that don’t resonate with you. Sometimes, contrast makes it easier to discover what you truly love. Write down the names of people you envy professionally. Ask yourself: "Whose job or lifestyle makes me feel a pang of envy? What field do I want to try but am too scared to pursue?" 🌈
4️⃣ Identify Areas Where You’re "Good Enough"
Even if you don’t have extraordinary skills in one area, you likely have a mix of abilities across different fields. Combining them could lead to discovering your true calling. 🌟
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💭 Don’t Let Anyone Steal Your Dream 🌟
When Monty was 16, he was assigned to write an essay about what he wanted to be when he grew up. He spent countless hours writing about his dream. He wanted to own a 200-acre ranch one day. He wrote seven pages, describing every detail and even drew plans for the buildings, stables, and roads. He sketched a detailed layout of the 4,000-square-foot house he wanted to build. The next day, he handed in his essay to the teacher.
Two days later, his teacher returned the essay with a failing grade, along with a note: “Stay after class.” 😔
After class, Monty, holding onto his dream, asked his teacher why he had received a poor grade. The teacher replied, “Because a dream like that is unrealistic for a boy like you. You need a lot of money to buy a ranch, and you don’t have any. You come from a poor family with no resources. There’s no way you can achieve that dream. Here’s what you should do: go home and write another essay with a more realistic dream, and I’ll give you a better grade.”
Monty went home and asked his father for advice. His father replied, “Son, this decision is up to you. It’s a crucial choice you have to make.” 🧑🤝🧑 Monty thought about his father’s words for a week. Finally, he handed the same essay back to the teacher and said, “You can keep the failing grade; I’m keeping my dream.”
Years went by, and Monty grew up. He shared this story with a group of people, saying, “I’m telling you this because you’re all sitting in my 4,000-square-foot house in the middle of my 200-acre ranch. And that essay is framed above the fireplace.”
Monty continued, “The most incredible part is that two years ago, that same teacher brought 30 students to camp out on my ranch. Before leaving, the teacher said, ‘Listen, Monty, I now realize I was a dream stealer. I’m sorry for taking so many children’s dreams away back then. But I’m glad you had the courage to defend yours.’”
💖 Don’t let anyone steal your dream. No matter what they say, follow your heart! 🌟
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💪 Traits of Psychologically Strong People 🌟
1️⃣ They Are Self-Sufficient
They have a clear and well-developed sense of self. They are not codependent, manipulative, or controlling. They solve their own problems and are comfortable both in solitude and in the company of others. They don’t expect to be “rescued” nor do they try to “save” or drastically change others. Their emotions are managed internally, and they don’t unload them onto those around them.
2️⃣ They Have Healthy Self-Esteem 🙌
Sometimes, healthy self-esteem is mistaken for narcissism, which involves false confidence, disrespect for others, manipulation, and chasing status, money, or power. However, strong individuals neither overestimate nor underestimate themselves. They are aware of and accept both their strengths and weaknesses. They evaluate themselves without relying on external praise and handle criticism calmly.
3️⃣ They Take Active, Not Passive, Action 🌟
They understand that they are responsible for their own lives. When faced with problems, they consider all possible options and make thoughtful decisions. A passive person may feel overwhelmed and become paralyzed by stress, while those who react automatically often don’t recognize the choices they’re making. Strong, active people are aware of their emotions, thoughts, and motives. They embrace life, even with its challenges.
4️⃣ They Think Rationally and Live in the Present 💭
They see reality as it is, using reason, logic, observation, and common sense. Irrational people, even if they think logically, often come to conclusions that seem reasonable to them but are objectively shortsighted or absurd. Strong individuals accept reality without self-deception and keep their emotions under control. They live in the moment, without dwelling on the past or endlessly worrying about the future.
5️⃣ They Adapt Well 🔄
Adaptability is one of the most valuable qualities in life. They can quickly adjust to change and remain calm in unexpected or unpleasant situations. Since life is full of the unforeseen, adaptability provides a sense of confidence. Strong people consider various outcomes but don’t stress excessively because they know they can handle whatever comes their way.
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