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My bf touched me without my consent
Okay, I'm not sure how to start this, but I'll try to summarize. I (24f ace spec) have already mentioned here in this community how receptive my boyfriend (m24 allo) was when I came out was ace. At first, it was great. I told him I wasn't sex-repulsive and that I rarely feel sexual attraction. Then, we started having problems. He touched me constantly. We had arguments about it, and I had to remind him that I didn't like being touched out of the blue, and that it would be better if I took the initiative or if he asked me if I wanted to. We had this argument in our second or third year together. And now, after almost six years together, it happened again.
I don't want to go into too much detail: I woke up one morning and he was groping my breasts, and then he started sucking them. Out of nowhere. I couldn't really react; I just felt upset all day. Later, I talked to him about what upset me, he apologized, and we moved on. But after I got home, I couldn't stop thinking about it and how bad I felt about it. He'd done this before, groping me without my consent, but I think this time I reached my limit. We argued a lot, and I told him all of this, saying I wanted time to think. And well, he didn't respect me, he didn't give me time, because he kept whining and suffocating me. Even though I told him several times that I just wanted time to think. Giving him chances, I found myself treating him badly, being short and rude. I told him to go to therapy. He went to therapy and told me he understands now. But I'm having mixed feelings.
Part of me tells me to forgive him because we've been together for many years, and the other part says I've put up with this for too long and I can't risk trusting him again. I don't know what to do ): he's so sweet with me but this is so disrespectful.
Sorry for any mistakes, English is not my first language.
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Don't give me that booty
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I enjoy masturbation more than real sex, i'm asexual?
I've had sex like 4 times but i didn't enjoy too much, the only thing was to kiss the woman's body ( her stomatch and belly button above all) because i have like a belly fetish but i was used to enjoy more on humping my bed daydreaming kissing some women bellies (asian mostly) but i had to stop because i became chatolic christian , but the question if i don't enjoy real sex that makes me asexual?
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Weird question? Can asexuals get shy over nudity/admire a naked body?
My apologies for the weird question . I just got curious bc my brain asked an interesting question and i wanna Ask abt it since its not answered. ( i swear to god the next Time i Ask stupid questions like this i am gonna start asking if asexuals can take sh1ts daily)
So yeah, can asexuals feel shy around naked ppl or admire a naked body?
Like, being shy abt it bc you dont really see naked ppl here so you would feel awkward or shy around it ( or maybe fluster idk )
Or that you can find a naked person beautiful and want to admire it like peace of artwork in a museum?
Bc i dont think nudity has it be sexual. Like, someone ppl paint naked ppl but it doesnt mean they wanna bang the naked person from the painting, right?…….right?
Hope not.
Anyways can asexuals admire nudity or be shy around naked ppl? ( dont Ask why i said ‘’ around naked ppl ‘’. Just imagine its a spa ok. Ppl are mostly butt naked here for some reason )
I would like to know
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If you’re ace and save a life, dose your body count become negative or roll over to 999
I resuscitated a person, now I think that idea is kinda funny
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I am obsessed with fictional cuties BECAUSE they can't touch me /j
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I feel like a lot of people thought that sexual and aesthetic attraction are the same thing before finding out that they are asexual
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Was told that I’m not allowed to be aroused lol
I’m asexual and alloromantic. I saw a celebrity on TV and told my friend that I got aroused. She said “I thought aces can’t be aroused”
Genuinely not sure how to respond?? By “aroused” I meant I think he’s really really hot, and by “hot” I mean I am romantically attracted to him because he’s good looking. I am, obviously, not sexually attracted to him.
Is the word “aroused” specific to sexual attraction? If so, I didn’t know that 🤣 I just meant that this guy is pretty and I love him in a romantic but not sexual way
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Is this a common experience for other aces?
Marked with a content warning due to mentioning genitals.
I frequently wish I had no genitals and I often get jumpscared by the fact I have equipment. My ideal would be to be a barbie doll who's completely featureless down there, and part of the reason I like nier automata so much is because androids canonically don't come with 'equipment' (but can have them installed if they want). Is this something that is a common experience among people who are part of the ace community?
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This homie said out loud what a lot of conservative men are thinking. This text can make you asexual.
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Asexual Doctor Who confirmed??
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why do my friends seem to think I'm ace?
basically whenever conversations turn to like people being attracted to others or like having crushes and things people always say "I'm pretty sure you're asexual.." but I don't understand. Like I jerk off to porn like anyone else, I can appreciate people who are objectively attractive without being attracted to them myself (for multiple reasons, such as they have a partner so I know feelings would be a waste of time and impractical or they're attractive and I'm aware of it cause like they have traits of a conventionally attractive person e.g. skinny, small nose, glasses that suit their face shape etc or things that personality-wise could make them attractive e.g. kind, caring, friendly, sarcastic, etc. without feeling an attraction to them myself) but I've had crushes in the past and I get aroused like other people but like...idk if 1. If I don't know a person how can I be attracted to them, I know nothing of their personality and 2. isn't it normal to not want to fuck everybody of the opposite gender? like genuinely it stresses me out because I wanna start dating properly but if people assume I'm asexual what if the people I date think that I'm not attracted to them because I don't show an immediate interest? Also how can I say I have or haven't felt sexually attracted to a person if there's no way to relate it to other feelings I've had until I've had it...idk it's just something that goes on and off of my brain from time to time and it's always stressful when I realize it even though ik they aren't looking down on me sometimes it feels like they are.
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After years of contemplating how to explain, this is what I have. I present: how to counter "asexual relationships = friendship/roommate".
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How do you even come out as aegosexual 😭
It's so awkward to explain for me. I wanna know if anyone else feels the same. 😭😭
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Tell me this isn't an accurate depiction of how Ace folks process singlehood vs allo folks?
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Don't give me that booty
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Question for Aces who watch porn.
I've been hyper fixating on potentially being ace/aego for about a week now but the novelty is starting to wear down and the feelings of relating to it feels like its lessening. I still feel romantic feelings and I watch porn and enjoy it. The part where I felt like i related was from the complete neutrality I have towards sex in real life, I've had multiple experiences with crushes and just random girls who were into me and I had feelings for some of them but no urge or draw to get physically closer. Now that the fixation has ended, the fact that I watch porn and enjoy it is making me think twice about if I am ace or not... And I don't much real life experience to pull from either which sucks.
If anyone else has an experience close to this, how did you come to terms with that dissonance?
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Asexual and romantic - is it common?
I am asexual and have absolutely no interest in sex. But I do have romantic interests. I am married and feel love for my husband, just as I do for other members of my family. I like to do things with him, to be with him, to take long evening walks on the beach with him, and to share my life with him. I just have no interest in having sex with him. He feels the same way and has no interest with sex with me. For both of us, we are not repulsed by the idea; we just have no interest. He told me that he feels the same way about putting his penis into my vagina as he does about putting his little toe into my ear. Neither are repulsive, but neither are desirable. I feel the same way. I kiss him, but I also kiss my grandmother.
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Us frfr
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Outfit inspiration for when people ask “What are you wearing? ;)”
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Belated birthday present from my aunt!
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Asexual first dating experience
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Belated birthday present from my aunt!
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Finally, I have a pin I can wear (design by me)
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Asexual Doctor Who confirmed??
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Trying to make sense of this comment i found
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When I was younger I thought “sleeping with” meant real sleeping
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LGBTQIA+ Mental Health Research Study [mod approved]
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The asexual community just formed the coolest band in existence! What’s our name?
Rock on, dudes 🤘
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Heyyy is it possible to....
Be queerplatonic but also not mind being in a relationship because I would rather have like close friends and roommates (yes plural I'm ambigamous) but I also wouldn't mind being in a relantionship but it's not a BIG goal I'd rather have friends
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