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A Strong Heart
I may be a bit old school but I think that people who store all of their pictures on their smart phones are missing out on something. There is nothing like seeing a loved one’s smiling face looking down on you from a picture frame on your wall. It is both comforting and reassuring, almost like they are watching over you while you work at your desk.
As I work at my own desk I can see my Nan’s picture smiling at me. She left us too soon. She was only 65 years old when cancer took her. If one’s years here were based on merit then she should have lived to be over 100. My grandpa’s kind smile is next to hers. It has only been a few years since he passed. Sometimes I still pick up the telephone wanting to call him and tell him something that has just happened to me only to remember that he is gone. My other Nana’s picture is there too, holding the 90 years young sign at her birthday party 16 years ago. How I wish I could walk into her kitchen again, have a talk, and share a big slice of homemade Italian bread with her.
Sometimes looking at these pictures gives me a touch of melancholy and sadness. I still miss them all and I don’t feel ready to be the oldest generation yet. Most of the time, though, I only feel the warmth and joy that comes from a million loving memories that these pictures bring back. It makes me feel blessed knowing that I had them all in my life for the years that I did. It makes me want to follow their loving example in my own life as well.
A lot of people say that you have to have a hard heart to get through life. Others say a soft heart is better. I myself think that a strong heart is best. We need a heart that loves through the pain. We need a heart that keeps loving even when we lose the people we love the most. We need a heart that knows that “Anyone who lives in love lives in God, and God lives in him.” May your heart be strong then. May your love shine from your pictures and from your life.
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The Flow Of Time
It was a Friday morning, 7:30a.m. I felt too lazy to drive my car, so my cousin booked an uber(a taxi like private car). In five minutes, the uber reached at the entrance gate, waiting for my arrival. I just saw the cab number and entered inside the car. I was so busy that I didn't pay any attention towards the driver. I was searching for an important paper from my leather bag, so instantly said, 'Please, go quick! I'm in a hurry!'
The voice came, 'Yes, Ma'am!'
I was literally surprised when I heard a female voice! I stopped my work for a second and looked at the driver. The driver was a young lady. Maybe, around thirty or thirty-two! For the first time, I saw a lady, driving an uber!
The car was running on the national high-way towards the destination. It was quite a distance from my home. She was driving perfectly well. Hundred times, I had travelled in uber, but never I saw any lady, driving an uber! I didn't know, why I became so enthusiastic to know why she had chosen this profession. I started the conversation,'If you don't mind, can I ask you some questions?'
'Yes, ma'am! No problem.'
'I guess, you are well qualified!'
'Yes, ma'am! I have completed my education. I have done my MBA course.
'Oh, wow!!! Why did you then choose this profession, instead of going for an academic career?'
I could see her face in the rear view mirror. She smiled and the way she expressed her views, I was really amazed!
Very politely, she said, 'Driving was my passion from my childhood, ma'am! Of course I do respect each and every job. In this case, at least I fulfilled my desire! I love driving! I don't mind for big or small job. I wanted a job where I can get satisfaction. I got offers from m.n.c but this one I preferred because I like it! I know, I can't get enough money out of it, yet as I told you 'I love driving'!That's it!'
'But, are you not scared of any danger? You know, there are some people who create problems for ladies."
With a smile, she answered,'We can not give up our living just because of a few trouble makers! By the way, which zone is danger free, ma'am? Once we are out of our homes, we must prepared to face problems.'
'Of course, you are absolutely right!!! Nowhere is safe, but yet...' before I completed my speech, she chuckled and said,'Ma'am! As long as I am getting humble and gentle passengers, I have no problem but every time I may not be that lucky! If ever that awkward situation comes, I will see! Why should I give off my hope just for an uncertainty?'
Frankly speaking, I was totally flattered with her bold answers and especially her brave heart and courage!
Within our conversation, we already reached at the destination. I was so delighted that I couldn't resist myself, said,'May God bless you!! I am proud of your noble thoughts! Keep going!'
She smiled at me with gratitude and slowly pushed the accelerator to move forward. I had enough work to do but unconsciously my mind was fully occupied with her answers and I thought,'Truly, how fast 'Time' is changing! There was a time when girls were choosing only prestigious jobs, once they were highly qualified but how easily this girl defined the boundary of 'job' within two words 'self satisfaction'! Let the rest of the world deeply understand the importance and value of 'the flow of time'!
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Happiness: My Pursuit Of It
"When I was young, I admired old people.
Now that I’m old, I admire wise people.
When I was a youth, I admired strong people.
Now that I’m old, I admire meek people.
When I was an adult, I admired wealthy people.
Now that I’m old, I admire happy people." ~ Matshona Dhliwayo
Since the beginning of time, humans across the globe have been pursuing singular goals: first it was sex, then it was money, now it is happiness. From the executive on Wall Street, to the sheepherder on the rural plains of Kenya, to the stay-at-home mother in China, all of us have been driven by the ceaseless desire to be happy.
What we eat, wear, and do are all expressions of our pursuit of happiness. So are the books we buy, the shows we watch, and the relationships we pursue. But, if humanity has searched for it since the beginning, how come happiness has been elusive? Should we not have found it? After all, we have gone to the moon, cured fatal diseases, and made countless discoveries in every field you can think of. Knowledge undeniably has increased, but the reality is that happiness has not.
This inspired my long, uncertain journey to find out the secrets to happiness.
I remembered the story of King Solomon, who according to the Bible was the wisest and richest man in history. He had all of the above, but he despaired in the end: "Utterly meaningless! Everything is meaningless." His pursuit of happiness ended miserably, as he was focused on his mind and body but at times forgot to nurture his soul. I came to the conclusion that, as humans being composed of mind, body, and soul, we must nurture all three to achieve our highest happiness.
Mind – You cannot live a happy life with sad thoughts. Timeless wisdom states that we become what we think. It therefore goes without saying that happy thoughts contribute to creating a happy life.
Body – Research has shown that the brain produces serotonin, a chemical contributing to our happiness and wellbeing. When we exercise, our bodies also produce endorphins, chemicals that reduce stress and diminish our perception of pain. Clearly, when we take good care of our bodies, our bodies take good care of us.
Soul – Researchers have been dumbfounded after finding that there is a relationship between healing and having a higher power. " The soul is the highest part of us, and if it’s nurtured, everything else – happiness, fulfillment and lasting joy – falls into place.
To help you on your happiness journey, below are ten insights I conjured up. Enjoy!
1. What you seek for others you find for yourself.
2. A heart full of joy is better than a hand full of coins.
3. Pebbles that bring you joy are better than diamonds that bring you sorrow.
4. When bad things happen to you, become wiser, not bitter.
5. The beauty that is in you is greater than the ugliness that is around you.
6. If you go to bed angry, you have robbed yourself of a chance to wake up happy.
7. Letting go of sorrow gives you enough strength to carry happiness. Letting go of anger gives you enough strength to carry kindness. Letting go of fear gives you enough strength to carry hopefulness. Letting go of resentment gives you enough strength to carry gratefulness. Letting go of disappointment gives you enough strength to carry joyfulness. Letting go of avarice gives you enough strength to carry contentedness.
8. Love subtracts sorrow, divides trouble, adds blessings, and multiplies joy.
9. Happiness cannot be bought by money, cannot be acquired by degrees, cannot be realized by power, and cannot be earned by honor; but it can be won by kindness, gained by charity, attained by goodness, and achieved by love.
10. Pleasure will make you happy for days. Wealth will make you happy for weeks. Honor will make you happy for years. Love will make you happy for a lifetime.
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Life Means Endings And Beginnings
When we enter into the world, it is the beginning of the journey of our new life and the end of the journey in mother's womb. Life means ending and beginning of things, circumstances, situations, relations, years any many more. We have two choices, accept life as it comes or create it by our own choice.
You can't rewrite your past life again but you can write your destiny by learning lessons from the past mistakes. Never regret for anything in your life because everything happens for a reason.
As life is passing, we meet new people and our new relationships are formed, in the same way our old relations are lost or we have to leave them i.e after marriage girls have to accept new family, new family members, beginning of her new life. So never forget old relations for new relations. Give importance to everybody in your life.
Every life starts with an end. The journey between the beginning of the life till its end. Throughout the journey how we play because we are temporary here. Now its up to us how we travel like a good passenger or a bad.
If there is no new beginning in life and there is no end to something then it becomes boring. As if leaves don't fall from the tree then it would look so ugly because leaves get dry with time, in the same way the beauty of life is in change, if a child stop growing then how long he and his parents would enjoy his childhood. Ending and beginning are the important part of life. So be always ready for new beginnings, new challenges and to make new moments memorable.
In this world, there is only God who has no beginning and no end. He is eternal. Apart from God everything has its ending. Whatever we have in our life new or old is important for us unless it doesn't come to an end. So respect, love everything and be thankful to God for everything.
Ending and beginning are the major part of life. Occasionally we are standing at such a turn of life when we have to make some decisions for ending and beginning of a new life. That decisions might be painful but we have to make it for the sake of our own or for our loved one's betterment.
Beginning of everything like love, career, any type of relationship, business etc is like emptiness but as we go through, we need to put dedication, concentration, sacrifices and lot of patience and slowly everything start becoming beautiful and end will be a painful because nobody wants to lose beautiful things but this is the fact whatever has been started has to end one day. Patience is the most important key of success.
"Let us always meet each other with smile, for the smile is the beginning of love". - Mother Teresa.
"An Oak tree is a daily reminder that great things often have small beginnings". - Matshona Dhliwayo
If, we go with flow of life than life is full of endings and beginnings like failure comes with new try with new method, grief comes with wisdom and wisdom is an end of imprudence, good deeds are an end of bad deeds, happiness is an end of sadness etc.
"With endings come new beginnings". - Alexandra Potter
May God bless you all with spiritual healthy wealthy long life and with good destiny.
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Your Beliefs Greatly Affect your Behaviors
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5. Please remember that you are worth all the love, happiness and peace in the world. I cannot stress the “please” enough here. Actually I cannot stress this entire sentence enough. Being depressed doesn’t mean you are not worthy of having anything that you want.
6. Everybody has voices in the head that tells lies. You have to be very careful with the voices you hear in your mind. Especially the negative ones because they are not true. Have you ever heard or read somewhere that we create our own reality? Which basically means; what you think about you will manifest in your life. I won’t go in depth about this concept here but what I can tell you is this. To make your negative thoughts “go away” or stop then you will have to replace them with the truth.
7. Write your truth. Write down your new truth about who you are, who you really are, who you want to be, what you want to have in your life and how you want to feel on a daily basis. For change to happen you must be willing to do something to change it and this right here is an incredible way of making the change take place. Ask yourself the big questions. Like whom do you want to be? What do you wish to achieve in your life? What makes you truly happy? What can you do to get what you want? Depression is not your identity, depression is just a state of mind you are feeling right now. But what you want to ask yourself is who are you when you are happy, free and peaceful? If you can’t answer that then try visualizing yourself looking happy, healthy, free and peaceful, how do you feel?
8. Conditioning your mind to work for you not against you. Once I understood this concept I really started to see my entire life differently. When we are depressed we tend to focus on everything that’s bad in our life. We think of the mistakes we have made, things we wished we did differently and how sad we feel for all the bad stuff and news we hear about each day.
9. Your thoughts are completely in your control. You might think your thoughts are not in your control and everything you feel is just coming to you by some unknown force. That’s where you are wrong. And how I was wrong as well. We all have absolute control over our thoughts. I agree we cannot always control the outer circumstances of life but we can control how we chose to look at them. Techniques that will help you control or rather train your mind to have pure thoughts are daily meditation, affirmations like I’ve mentioned, being true to yourself, following your passion and doing what you truly want. Continued...
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Facing Loss Head on...
Two years and just over three months ago, I lost the most amazing person I have ever had in my life.
I was seventeen.
As each day, week, month and year pass by, his absence is felt even harder.
You only ever get two grandparents. Never did I imagine that I would spend the rest of my life without one.
"I have cancer." Those words ring in my ears every single day. I was fifteen when I first heard those three words. I didn't understand what it meant only acknowledging that he was sick.
For two years my granddad was bounced around four different hospitals. Hooked on chemo therapy, radiation and many different medications, I witnessed the life slowly drive out of someone.
I wanted him so badly to cheer me on at my soccer games, drive me to school, go on Saturday morning Tim Horton runs and go to the beach. He was healthy, active and happy. There was no sign pointing towards cancer. My granddad never got sick.
He was the kind of person who would make you feel like his own son, daughter, brother or sister. He always reached out to those in need. He cared like no other. He loved like no other. He lived like no other.
Each day it hurts a little more. The effect of this loss has changed so much about myself. My life hasn't been the same. I still walk through the house door and expect him to be sitting on the couch, watching Bundesliga soccer games. I still walk into Tim Horton's and pretend he's there ordering coffee while I snack on a donut.
There's this quote, "We didn't realize we were making memories. We just knew we were having fun."
When I think of this quote I realize that when you have a person who is so special and close to you, you don't pay attention to the things you do and say. Little do we know all the moments good and bad, make beautiful memories.
On January fourth 2015 everything that I've known and loved was taken away from me. I lost so much that day. It's a day that I replay in my head a billion times. I never got to hold his hand, and tell him how much I loved him at his very last breath. The thing about this is i could've been there. But I chose to not be. I was selfish. I was tired of being around someone who could barely recognize me. Someone who was in so much pain. I was too oblivious to realize that he needed me. I chose to not get in the car with my mom that morning. I wanted to stay home. I would've at least known that I told him and he heard me. I cannot go back to that day and rewind the time. I neglected the fact that he was deteriorating.
I was always told that with time it will get better. I've come to realize that it is completely false. Breaking a bone or getting a bad grade will eventually heal and improve. But when you face a loss of this magnitude there will never be a timeline for "recovery." Because you truly never recover. You can only cope and heal.
Grief is real, prickling, heart-wrenching, tiring and painful. It hits you like a truck. The hardest part is going on with life. Holidays and birthdays are one the hardest challenges. You are cruelly reminded of who should be there but isn't. It's a permanent part of you that is indefinitely damaged.
There was a time when I felt numb and hopeless. It was scary because I felt nothing but felt everything. The shame and fear of wanting so badly to tell someone, but being too weak to say anything at all. I was saved that day. I am here to tell my story. I hope that anyone out there in this beautiful world who has ever lost someone knows that there are ways to talk about it.
I can't tell you how to cope, how to feel or how to move forward. There is no manual for grief. It's a silent barrier that makes you different. You have to try.
I have to live on for my granddaddy. I need to honor his memory and celebrate his legacy by moving forward. With love, trust, strength, fearlessness and family, we will find peace.
So with that, live, dream big and hug those around you a little tighter. :)
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Depression Can Be Cured...
I want to tell you about depression which is a kind of disorder that side by side kills you internally, all emotional and physical activities gets disturbed by it. I have seen people suffering from depression due to loss of loved ones, genetics as depression can run in families, mental sickness, by usage of drugs, or it also takes place when one starts a job, or getting married etc. may be due to stress. So here is my little effort for people who are suffering from this severe problem.
Depression typically encompasses sleep problems either makes you sleep little or more. It effects brain and stress patterns as well. The basic therapy for depression are antidepressant which increase the levels of brain chemicals, causes efficiency. Medical treatment or usage of anti-depressants can antidote depression. One who is in a dire need or want quick recovery should go for it otherwise natural remedies can do best to overcome depression without having any side effects.
First you have to realise the reason behind depression. What’s making you sad? What are reasons behind your failure? Some of the natural factors that reduce depression includes the quality of food, body movements etc.
Abstain processed food, fast food and commercial baked goods which cause depression. Research has concluded that more unhealthy fats one consume, higher will be the risk of depression. We have to replace vegetable oils with olive oil that declines the risk of depression by almost 50 percent. Coconut oil is also good in this regard, which feeds brain.
Secondly, exercise is the best things for uplifting moods. It regulates circulation to supply more oxygen, glucose, and nutrients to brain. Regular physical exercise can do better than SSRIs (selective serotonin re-uptake inhibitors), drugs used for the treatment of depression. Outdoor exercise can do far better than indoor exercise, it increases liveliness, interest and interaction with the surroundings. It can also lower stiffness, sadness and lethargy. Under favourable circumstances it can replenish our vitamin D storage which have the ability to lift our moods. Sun in this regard is more beneficial.
Meditation is one of the best ways to settle depression. Researchers from Johns Hopkins University concluded that meditation is beneficial for mental disorders of all kinds.
According to the studies, people who are depressed express nearly 50 percent less gratitude than the normal ones. Gratitude is riddled by emotions such as greed, frustration, resentment, and regret which are the characteristics of depression so in order to feel stress-free and comfortable pay thanks every day for all the blessings you have.
Take care of your health and physical appearance. Talk of what you need and what you don’t. Instead of keeping dual personalities be real and simple. Try to think, perceive, and act positive. Don’t let negative thoughts, feelings of uselessness and loneliness, and fears govern you!
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Your Beliefs Greatly Affect Your Behaviors
Van Gogh said, "If you hear a voice within you say 'you cannot paint,' then by all means paint, and that voice will be silenced." Your beliefs greatly affect your behaviors. When you identify what beliefs are holding you back and act in spite of them, your results will begin to change.
Did you know success— almost always— boils down to one thing?
And if you aren't willing to learn this, in its entirety, you will never claim it.
"It is the mind that maketh good of ill, that maketh wretch or happy, rich or poor." —Edmund Spenser
Your frame of mind dictates your reality.
Every single day, both men and women will test your frame of mind—measuring your self-belief—testing your role within the social hierarchy. That is not a pessimistic view of life.
In fact, it's quite the contrary.
Anything you ever wanted—and will want—is within your reach when you believe with conviction that you can achieve it. The Bible calls it faith. Sports psychologists call it confidence. Entrepreneurs call it determination.
The great E.E. Cummings said, "Once we believe in ourselves, we can risk curiosity, wonder, spontaneous delight, or any experience that reveals the human spirit.”
To be anything and everything you want to be, you must have a dominant frame of mind.
That is to say that you must believe it, regardless of contrary or unchanging conditions. This is the fundamental principle of attraction - not just in the pick up community. You must believe you capable of achieving a result without actually making it about achieving it. (e.g. focus on being attractive, not getting that one girl.)
When I need an example of a powerful frame of mind, I look towards Muhammad Ali. Here are some of his most famous quotes:
"If my mind can conceive it, and my heart can believe it—then I can achieve it."
"I am the greatest, I said that even before I knew I was."
"If you even dream of beating me you'd better wake up and apologize."
"Impossible is just a big word thrown around by small men who find it easier to live in the world they've been given than to explore the power they have to change it. Impossible is not a fact. It's an opinion. Impossible is not a declaration. It's a dare. Impossible is potential. Impossible is temporary. Impossible is nothing.” Ali demonstrated time and time again, that he was completely sold on his success. His hands were steady on the wheel of life. He had conviction--a firm unshakable belief in himself.
If your hands shake whenever someone tests you, you will always fall within another person's perception of reality. You are in unique place. You are alive and the world is your oyster. Develop the one the skill of unshakable belief, and carry with you the rest of your life, you will With this skill, your world view will always win out—and remember, in your world view, you are a KING.
When we believe something with enough emotional intensity, our mind will do everything in its power to reinforce it as our reality.
This one realization will empower you to take complete control of your life.
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10. How to start the process of conditioning your mind. Let’s take the phrase “I’m not good enough” as an example. Ask yourself, not good enough for what exactly? Who said you’re not good enough? Do you really think that’s a fact or could it be a false belief you need to change? You feel sad or angry or hurt about something that went wrong but did you ever ask what valuable lesson you got out of that situation?
There is nothing you can do about what you did or not in the past now. But how you want your present and future to look like is very much in your control. So you can ask yourself what am I supposed to do now with all that past pain, how can I turn it into something powerful that can help me and maybe even others in time?
11.Stop comparing yourself to other people. You don’t need to prove anything to anyone; you are not supposed to look like someone else, be like someone else or live like someone else. Nobody’s life is better than yours, or worse than yours, this is all an illusions we create in our head. We “think” someone is better or worse than someone else. The only thing that is, is what you choose, what you create in your mind. Your mind is your most powerful possession, it can create a world you love or hate. It can give you everything that you want if you only learn how to use it right.
Last but not least I want to tell you that there is nothing wrong with being depressed. I know it might sound contradictory since all I have been talking about above is how to get out of depression. I know despite of knowing what to do and sometimes doing the right things you can still feel depressed. I know how it feels, I’ve been there and that’s completely fine.
Whatever you have been through will take some time to heal and that’s normal, it’s how it’s supposed to be. But these tools might help you heal much faster than you would if you didn’t do any of the things mentioned above. I still use all of the tools above, but it’s become more of a habit and part of my life now rather than tools. I know now that I will be able to get out of depression if I ever feel depressed again. And hopefully live my life in such a way where I don’t have to feel depressed ever again. By knowing that each and everything we need to truly be happy is already inside of us. It takes practice but it can be done by anyone.
All my love goes out to you.
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I Overcame Depression. Here's What I
Did
I think it’s very important to mention first and foremost that I have been depressed in my life. This doesn’t make me a therapist of course or qualified in any professional way to give you advice on this subject.
But I can say with confidence that I know how it feels to be depressed and I also know how to build a life where you can be happy. I overcame my depression.
Let me first tell you that I was living alone in New York one Summer, and I didn’t have the blessing of having friends or family coming to visit me or checking up on me. And I didn’t exactly feel like reaching out to someone telling them “hey, I’m depressed, can you come over?” because I felt drained and tired of everything.
I wasn’t eating well, at one point I didn’t and I didn’t feel like exercising or going out at all. Everything seemed pointless, life seemed so meaningless and I couldn’t find joy in anything. I cried most of the time and felt as if I was all alone in this world and that no one was ever going to love me, see me or care for me again.
If I have earned your trust by telling you about a part of my past that was really difficult at the time, then I have some real words of wisdom for you. I talk about trust because I really need you to trust me when I say that I know how it feels, I’ve been there, I haven’t experienced exactly what you have/are but I bet the feelings you feel I’ve felt too. I really want you to listen to what I’m about to say because if you do it can change your life and you can start the healing process that will set you free from suffering and pain.
1. Never ever believe peoples nasty opinions about you. People like to talk; some of them like to talk when they shouldn’t. When someone says something nasty to you, you must understand that it has much more to do with them than with you. Many people will try to tell you who you are and what you should do and what you deserve and don’t. These people more than often tend to show up when we are vulnerable and hurt. Bottom-line is, don’t believe their opinions, especially when they are negative and about you!
2. Get far, far, far away from people who put you down and are negative to your spirit. It doesn’t matter if these people are your family, friends or only people you hang out with. You need to get away from them if you ever want to get out of feeling depressed. They are toxic to your spirit, to your heart and instead of lifting you up they will drag you down to the bottom of the ocean because that’s usually where people who put others down live.
3. Feel your pain and set yourself free. I was alone and felt my stomach turning out of fear of loneliness and other strange feelings which I didn’t understand at the time. I did what my wisdom told me; let the feelings come, allow yourself to be in the moment with your emotions. Doing this will make you heal, yes, you will be one step closer to letting go of your depression. You will set yourself free every time you allow yourself to feel whatever it is that you are actually feeling. Feel all the sensations in your body, maybe it’s your heart beating faster, maybe it’s tears rolling down your cheeks, maybe it’s a sense of pain in your chest or head.
4. Depression can’t be cured with love, but it can be cured with self love. I used to think that if someone would only care about me enough to invite me to their home or love me enough to just call and check up on me, then I wouldn’t be so depressed. Well let me tell you, no one will check up on you if you don’t. No one will call you, embrace you, and take care of you unless you do. And even if you do find someone who is willing to love all of you the way you are, you will still feel depressed because you are unsatisfied with yourself. You have unfinished business within yourself that no one can come and solve for you. No one can “love” you out of your depression; it would be an illusion to think that it can happen. Continued...
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